This evening we talked about self-control. In all honesty, this is a difficult fruit for many of us. Whether it is speaking out of turn, remembering a great joke that you can’t wait to share or daydreaming about hanging out with a great friend it is sometimes hard to practice self-control. Below, is a summary of what we discussed today. Please reinforce this learning at home. We’ll revisit this topic again throughout the remaining 4 weeks, as this is an important virtue to consistently display and nurture.
What are the fruits of the spirit and how are they developed?
In Galatians 5:16-26, Paul shares with us that our sinful nature is constantly trying to overtake the Holy Spirit inside of us. In order to overcome our sinful nature we must grow in those things of the spirit. We can do so by cultivating the fruits of the spirit- love, joy, peace, patience, faithfulness, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self-control. In order for our children to nurture these fruits that are growing in them currently we must continuously “water” them with the word of God and practicing these virtues daily.
What is SELF-CONTROL?
Definition: Being in charge of your emotions, thoughts and actions.
Having self-control means being in charge of your emotions, thoughts, words and actions. It means doing what God wants you to do rather than what you want to do.
Bible Verse: “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” Proverbs 25:28
Examples of How We Demonstrate Self-Control
After a long day of school and other activities it may be tempting to go straight to bed. Take time out to talk/pray to God.
When asking someone for or to do something, if the answer is not what you wanted, don’t yell, get mad or upset. Instead, calmly accept the answer.
When having a conversation with someone else, be respectful and let them complete their thought before speaking. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying patiently.
Puzzles are an excellent way to calm a person down and refocus attention. This evening each child made a jigsaw puzzle about self-control. Each puzzle piece has pictures or words that are cues for how to positively respond to challenging situations. These reminders reinforce self-control by providing responsible choices for dealing with our emotions, thoughts, words and/or actions.
This week’s challenge requires children to record what they did to display self-control. Review James 1:19 as a reinforcement of what we learned- “…Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” Be sure to review the challenge with your child and sign the card when the challenge is completed.
Planting Spiritual Seeds
How is your child’s seed doing? Is it growing? Is your child remembering to water it as he or she waters their spirit? As a reminder, this seed represents the fruits of the spirit that we have inside of us and will be a visual reminder of what is happening spiritually within each of us during this experience. Over the next few weeks as your child displays a fruit of the spirit, they are to water the seed in the bag. For example, when he or she says their nightly prayers, they will water their plant. When they help with the dishes without being asked, they will water their plant. By regularly displaying the fruits of the spirit, they are watering their seed and watching it grow (which is exactly what’s happening to their spirits!). When we meet each week, they’ll share how their seed is doing. Help your child as needed to be responsible for caring for both their physical and spiritual seeds. Tonight Caitlynn brought in her seed. Wow! Look how it’s growing.
Feel free to let us know how it is going for you by sharing pictures of your growing seeds on our Facebook page or Children’s Ministry blog. If your seed isn’t sprouting feel free to start over or try transferring it to fresh soil. Both are great teachable moments about God’s grace in providing us a 2nd chance.
Looking Ahead to Next Week:
Fruits of the Spirit Song
To help us remember what the fruits of the spirit are, we will start learning a song that lists each of the fruits of the spirit. It is a fun song with some silly motions that help make it engaging and memorable. Feel free to start practicing at home by accessing the video on Youtube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e47FnjKaT3Q&noredirect=1.
Joy and Peace
Next week we’ll discuss joy and peace. We’ll discuss the difference between happiness and joy along with the peace that surpasses all understanding. It’ll be a great evening. Don’t miss it!
Success Depends on You
- Pray for each child, parent, family, church member and volunteer. Ask God to positively change each life through this 6-week study.
- Invest in our children by bringing your child or children to each night of this 6 week study. Also, reinforce the learning at home.
- Volunteer at least 1 of the 6 nights of the series. You can sign-up to help in class as a lead or assistant teacher during the lesson, game time or arts & crafts.
- Talk to your child/children about what was learned and how it applies to their lives.
Questions? Comments? Email me at email@example.com.